Whether you are or not sometimes you will always be accused of or feel it yourself.
Due to the high Fe of this personality trait, ENFJs always suffer from their sensitivity. Also a benefit for ENFJs, it’s a double-edge sword. Highly sensitive makes ENFJs more sophisticated and easily drained from emotional affairs.
You definitely have these experiences when you’re simply exhausted from social interactions, whether it’s a breakup, the loss of a good friend or other tiresome social activities. These activities are emotional burdens as to everyone, but due to high Fe, ENFJs would always invest much more than others into the activities they love.
So here comes the question, how to balance yourself more on the emotional state to make you more healthy and withstandable so that you don’t get drained very often?
There are many solutions to this. But first thing needs to be tackled, is the high sensitivity.
I normally stay very calm and peace around myself, but if I enter some vulnerable time, I’ll get very sensitive and overreactive on things normally shouldn’t. This is bad for mental health, you’ll get anxious over time if you stay long in this period.
So, solution #1: Meditate
This is the most effective method to tackle anything that causes anxiety. First, calm down yourself. If you can’t, don’t worry, just stop. Stop everything on your hand. Don’t mind it’s in a work or you’re walking. Just stop, physically stop.
If you want to create peace first you have to be at peace. Stop, literally.
Second, find somewhere quiet and open space. If you are not able to move around, it’s fine either, just dive your spiritual self into a big, pure white cube zone. Imagine you’re at the center of the cube, or the base center, the center of everything of your realm.
Third, calm yourself. After the process of you and your spiritual self’s meeting, calm your nerve, calm your soul. Try to talk to your spiritual self. For me, everyone has an alter ego inside their brains, so you need to pull that ego out of the abyss and connect with him. He/She’s the true form of yourself. If you have a hard time calming down yourself, do Deep Breaths.
How to deep breathe?
1. Stay/Keep still. A little movement is tolerable, remember the key part is to calm your heart.
2. Close your eyes, make everything slow down.
3. Start to inhale. Keep it slow. Inhale until you feel the air is filling up your stomach/belly.
4. Keep the air little bit, or stay the state. Then exhale naturally, follow the flow.
5. Cycle the steps, make it more naturally, until you feel like you can leave everything off of you for a moment, and concentrate yourself on the talk with your spiritual own.