Able men are humble.

If brute force pervades savage world, then lies are the currency of civilized society.

If one can lie and cheat to his way, why in the world would one use brute force? A much costlier and harder method of dealing with things.

Lies don’t cost anything. You only need to present a falsified reality with a set of rhetorical words, to deceive, and to cheat.

I find that weak people always seek ways to pretend themselves as the strong. Out of sheer self-protection? Or vanity? ...READ MORE

Hard Power and Soft Power

The concept of power is essentially a means of control in civic area.

Power, as it usually manifests, is divided into two categories. Hard power, and soft power.

Hard power, is by utilizing oppression and physical forces in order to make others do as you say.

Soft power, on the other hand, is usually agreements. Unlike hard power being mostly oppression, soft power utilizes general consent.

The nuanced difference is that, you may find a second way and circumvent the soft power imposed on you. However, you can’t find any other way than obey to the hard power imposed on you. ...READ MORE

To Make a Friend

Break Down the Person into an Individual

The art of making a friend means to know a person.

To break down the process of making a friend, it is the mere process of breaking down person to an individual.

Like many other people among us, people don’t seem to have characteristics. They are statistics, numbers, stereotypes, that don’t matter.

You can discover your friends through a crowd instantly is because your friends stand out from others. They are not faceless. They are somebody. ...READ MORE

Farmer and Snake

In Traditional Chinese parables, there is a story about a farmer and a snake:

Long time ago, in a frosting winter, an old man was pacing slowly on frozen water for home.

Some time later, he saw a strange stick lying on the ground. Despite the heavy snow splashing into his face, he went forth and found out the strange twisted stick was not a stick at all, but a frozen snake.

The farmer braced the snake into his chest, and kept on heading his way home. ...READ MORE

Independence, Patriarchy and Society

Patriarchy stems from male independence, an indivisible relationship.

In society, what does independence consist of?

  • Physical independence: Physical independence is sheer force, sheer physical power. The stronger your body is, the more power you can amass in order to assert rules over others.
  • Wealth independence: Wealth independence is free from poverty, free from lack of materials. Or very much a resource gatherer. The resources boost your other independences.
  • Love independence: Be able to stand on your toes and free to choose partners. One is able to have choices, and in no lack of love from others. One is cherished, with a stable/level mind.
  • Socioeconomic independence: A modern term combined with previous two independences, plus a social repute. Free from opinions, free from bad words, free from bad/lower social rungs that linger at higher social rungs.
  • Wisdom independence: Being agile in mind fields, one is able to solve problems. And scale himself at a vantage point in order to outmaneuver others.

One shall keep himself safe from harm. One shall feed himself enough to survive. One shall have partners yet not clinging on them. One shall be respectable. One shall have set of skills to outmaneuver others.

All these things can be achieved by men, and men alone. Women certainly have a hard time on achieving all these independences all by “herselves”. ...READ MORE

The Current Internet State of China

Bloomberg reported last year that in 2018 China is going to ban all VPN services in order to prohibit netizens access outside network.

It is said that the ban is already in effect, which happened in March, this year.

From news sources, it is said the government has already banned all unauthorized VPN services. If, this is true, netizens would have much trouble connecting to the outside world.

But I haven’t experienced any trouble connecting to my VPN service, but it might be the case that my VPN is the most efficient and the priciest you can find in China. ...READ MORE

Not Quite Monogamy

So we have guy Palau. Palau has talked to you about every date of his life. And every time he tells you, he believes the person is the love of his life.

However, whenever a relationship ends, Palau gets hurt. But that doesn’t stop Palau assuming the next relationship not being a love of his life.

Is Palau monogamous?

If we assume every person, or let’s say–if in the beginning of every relationship, we assume this relationship will be the love of our life. Ending this relationship means we lose the love of our life. If start again, we have a new love of our life. This doesn’t stop. ...READ MORE